It makes me sad to know that some people will see the heading of this blog and scroll straight past it. But thank you to those who care enough about their children, and are brave enough, to keep reading.

I’m a mother of two girls. I love them for everything that makes them different. They don’t always follow the crowd. They’re individuals. They’re gorgeous and love dressing up and wearing makeup, but they also play hard on the basketball court and chase adventure like it’s oxygen.

So if one of them came to me one day and said, “Mum, I’m a lesbian,” what would I do?

Before I answer that, I want to tell you why I want all parents to think about this question.

I have a gay dad. I love him to bits. I love that unconditional love meant we still had a great relationship, thanks to my mum too. But he, like so many others, has been criticised, rejected, and cut off from family because people chose judgement over love. I’ve spoken to countless men and women who were kicked out of home, banned from speaking to their families, or pushed so far into despair that they attempted suicide because of that rejection.

Let’s wind back the clock. You hold your child for the first time. They are perfect. They look up at you and your world shifts forever. You imagine their future. Who they’ll become. Who they’ll love. Where they’ll travel. You picture it all.

But here’s the truth: you have absolutely no control over whether your child is gay or straight. They are who they are.

I’ve met so many kids and teenagers who already know deep down that they’re gay, but don’t have the language, safety, or confidence to say it yet. I’ve taught my girls to be loving and caring of all people, and especially to be sensitive to friends who may come out during their friendship. I want my girls to be the kind of people someone feels safe enough to tell the truth to.

And if you’re thinking, “My child is only two, this doesn’t affect me,” let me stop you right there.

Talking about this is just as important as talking about immunisation or child‑proofing your house. This is a life‑or‑death issue for some kids. When your child was born, you didn’t say, “I’ll only take them home if they’re straight,” or “I’ll only love them if they behave perfectly,” or “I’ll only accept them if they become a teacher like me.” You loved them unconditionally. Never stop doing that.

So if one day my girls came to me and said, “Mum, I’m a lesbian,” what would I do?

I would say, “OK,” and give them a hug. No drama. No theatrics. Just love. Pure and simple.

Some kids know who they are really early. Some don’t figure it out until later. Either way, they need you to love them. That’s the job.